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Scapegoated by Family and in Contact? Try These 12 Self-Care Strategies

SCAPEGOATED BY FAMILY & IN CONTACT? Try these 12 Self-Care Strategies! (From the author of the best-selling book, Rejected, Shamed, & Blamed).

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Divorcing a Covert Abuser: When Your Family Sides With Your Ex (Part One)

Few things are more heart-wrenching to me as a Mental Health practitioner than when I see a client being scapegoated, betrayed, and abandoned by their family-of-origin – and even some friends – when divorcing a spouse that engages in covert abuse…

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Narcissistic Parents and the Martyr Parent Ploy

One of the ways that a narcissistic parent marginalizes their child is to demean them and put them down – This is particularly the case with the ‘scapegoat child’. An example of such marginalization tactics is evident in what S.P. named the ‘Martyr Parent Ploy’, which we consider to be a form of covert narcissism.

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Recognizing C-PTSD as a Legitimate Diagnosis

[Note: This article originally written for The C-PTSD Foundation in November 2020] Complex PTSD ( which is sometimes interchanged with terms such as complex relational trauma, developmental trauma, and interpersonal… Read more »

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5 Critical Things to Know About Family Scapegoating Abuse (FSA)

Because family scapegoating processes can be insidious and subtle, many adult survivors do not realize that they are suffering from a most egregious (and often chronic) form of systemically-driven psycho-emotional bullying and abuse, with all of the painful consequences to body, mind, and spirit…

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Family Gatherings: 10 Self-Care Strategies for FSA Survivors

As more people get vaccinated for Covid-19, family gatherings are once again possible. It is common to have high expectations when thinking of reuniting with family you haven’t seen for a… Read more »

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The Invisible Wounds of Psycho-Emotional Child Abuse – Part One

Note: This article was first published in 2014 and revised in 2019, 2020, and 2021. Were You a Victim of ‘Invisible Abuse’ in Your Family-Of-Origin? Ever wonder if you were… Read more »

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Last Chance to Take FSA Survey

Greetings! I hope this newsletter finds you well. 2020 was a year of losses for many. I’ve heard from quite a few of you over this past year and it… Read more »

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Is Toxic Shame Sabotaging Your Recovery?

Toxic shame is chronic in nature. It resides in our unconscious, meaning, we are not consciously aware that we have, or are experiencing, shame. It exists ‘on the back burner’ of our psyche, causing havoc, and yet we do not even know it is there!