“He says the best way out is always through. / And I can agree to that, or in so far / As that I can see no way out but through”
-Robert Frost
Just a quick heads up that I have recently uploaded two videos on my new FSA-focused YouTube channel (linked below). The Robert Frost quote above was kindly left in a comment on one of these videos, mirroring my point that to move beyond the wreckage caused by family scapegoating abuse (FSA), we must develop the courage and willingness to move through it.
The video ‘Are You Trapped in the Family Scapegoat Role?’ explores the “why” of it all in regard to some of the distorted ways that family members view the target of family scapegoating abuse behaviors, and is a follow-up to my recently released ‘3 Bizarre Realities FSA Adult Survivors Experience’ video. The second video gives a quick overview of what “going beyond FSA” means to me as a clinician working with adult survivors.
As mentioned in my last post, I have a ‘perfect storm’ of personal life stressors going on right now (sick dogs; a family member having surgery; etc), but I would like to continue to connect with my subscribers. These videos are much quicker for me to get out than articles, so they will have to do for now, although I must say, I’ve been overwhelmed by the positive response and all of the comments, ‘likes’, and new subscribers via this new medium – Please know that your support is much appreciated. It’s been wonderful being able to interact with some of you over on YouTube. Keep the comments coming and let me know what topics you’d like me to cover in future video offerings.
I’ve also changed the name of my new YouTube channel to Beyond Family Scapegoating Abuse – and this is what I hope to continue helping you all with via my free online social media resources, book, website, and blog.
Warmly,
Rebecca C. Mandeville, LMFT, CCTP
ARE YOU TRAPPED IN THE FAMILY ‘SCAPEGOAT NARRATIVE’?
GOING BEYOND FAMILY SCAPEGOATING ABUSE (FSA)
Rebecca C. Mandeville, MA
Rebecca C. Mandeville coined the research-supported terms 'family scapegoating abuse' (FSA) and 'family scapegoat trauma' (FST) and is a recognized thought leader in understanding the consequences of being in the family 'identified patient' or 'scapegoat' role. She also created the FSA Recovery Coaching℠ process. Her best-selling book, 'Rejected, Shamed, and Blamed', is the first book ever written on FSA. Rebecca serves as a YouTube Health Partner via her channel 'Beyond Family Scapegoating Abuse' and is also active on Instagram and Facebook.
Looking forward to your next video.
Your videos are truly enlightening. Some of the descriptive terms you use make me laugh but are really spot on. “Roadkill”! Too funny, but all so real. After ruminating on the word, I came to understand why my body is always so tired, no matter how much rest I get. I’m still healing from being regularly run over by my family’s emotional station wagon. As a teenager, I likened myself to a stray dog, fed scraps, kicked for no reason and regularly shunned. Family scapegoating is so unfair!
Hi Kathi, thank you for taking the time to let me know my new videos are helpful. In regard to your fatigue, “the body keeps the score,” indeed. Self-compassion and self-care are in order. I hope you subscribed to my YouTube channel – I’ll be posting another video by Friday.