It can be painful – even traumatic – to experience family betrayal. Trying to get past it and attempting to sort out your feelings and establish a path forward can be complex and challenging, to say the least.
Children and adults who are scapegoated by their family are betrayed by those who are supposed to love and care about them the most. It can be confusing, shocking, and angering, and many adult survivor struggle with disenfranchised grief and even complex trauma (C-PTSD).
When trying to find your way through difficult and impossible-seeming situations and events, you do not have to deal with it by yourself.
My name is Rebecca C. Mandeville and I’m a licensed trauma-informed psychotherapist and certified life coach. I specialize in what I named (for qualitative research purposes) Family Scapegoating Abuse (FSA) and I write about FSA on my ‘Scapegoat Recovery’ PsychCentral blog.
In addition to my introductory eBook on FSA (which is available for purchase here on my website), I’m currently authoring a full-length book on family scapegoating abuse that is trauma-informed and will include an evidence-based recovery pathway.
I also understand the pain of being in the family scapegoat role first-hand. This, along with nearly two decades of clinical and coaching experience serving adult survivors of dysfunctional families all around the world allows me to deeply empathize with the scapegoated adult’s unique experiences and challenges.
Family Scapegoating is Insidious
One thing that became clear to me early on in my research on family scapegoating abuse: Scapegoated adults often don’t realize how their familial distress has been negatively impacting nearly every area of their life, including their mental and emotional health, relationships, work, and their ability to realize their most cherished goals and dreams.
Scapegoated adults often feel debilitated by self-doubt and ‘imposter syndrome’ in their relationships and in the work-place, and blame themselves for their difficulties. They typically find themselves unable to create a sense of mission, passion, and purpose, and find themselves succumbing to feelings of futility, hopelessness, and even depression, anxiety, and despair.
They do not realize how being the target of family scapegoating is affecting their ability to succeed and thrive in their personal and professional life. But there is a way through the pain and confusion of being cast into this most painful and damaging role.
The Family Scapegoating Abuse Recovery services I offer are trauma-informed and can help you to set and achieve goals, overcome obstacles, and maintain motivation while learning how to move past the trauma of family betrayal.
LEARN ABOUT MY FAMILY SCAPEGOATING ABUSE (FSA) RECOVERY SERVICES
Has being the victim of Family Scapegoating Abuse inhibited your ability to succeed and thrive in life? Do you feel hopeless, lost, and confused regarding how to recover from family betrayal? Use the form below to request your 20 minute Online Consultation to learn how I can help you break free of negative family conditioning so that you can live from your core truth. I look forward to connecting with you today!
– Rebecca C. Mandeville, MA, MFT
(Scroll down to take a mini FSA self-assessment and read related articles from my Scapegoat Recovery PsychCentral Blog)
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IMPORTANT NOTE: If you are ‘triggered’ when talking about family members and/or do not want to discuss details of being scapegoated, please let me know this at the beginning of your consultation.
You’ve Been Held Back In Life Due To Family Scapegoating Dynamics Long Enough.
Below is a Scapegoat ‘Mini’ Self-Assessment: Were You Scapegoated By Your Family?
- Did you grow up with an Emotionally Immature, Addicted, Narcissistic, or Personality Disordered Parent / Primary Caregiver?
- Were you the ‘problem child’ or ‘identified patient’ in your family-of-origin (you may even still be struggling to escape these stifling roles today)?
- Do you identify as being ‘codependent’ or ‘highly sensitive’ and ‘empathic’?
- Were you the ‘truth teller’ in your family? Was it implied that you were emotionally / mentally ill or that you were ‘bad’, ‘wrong’, or a ‘liar’ when you spoke your mind and/or contradicted the ‘family story’ being promoted by one or both of your parents and/or a dominant sibling (or other dominant nuclear or extended family member)?
- Do you find it difficult to develop healthy, mutually respectful relationships with one or more siblings? Do you have a dominant sibling who now treats you in the same manner your dysfunctional / abusive parent did?
- Do you struggle with addiction or codependency (or both?)
- Do you have difficulty identifying your own wants, needs, thoughts, and feelings? Do you choose to remain silent ‘to keep the peace’ and/or avoid conflict at all cost?
- Have you struggled as an adult with forming healthy, mutually respectful, trusting relationships?
- Do you wrestle with severe self doubt, including ‘imposter syndrome’?
- Have you chosen to reduce or limit contact with one or more (abusive) family members?
- Do you feel you have been betrayed by one or more family members?
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About My Services
My FSA Recovery services are available nationally and internationally via secure video. Psychotherapy services in the United States are available to California residents only (see below).
I am able to work with coaching clients worldwide. Online life coaching is not for everyone. A 20-minute online consultation / assessment is required prior to my agreeing to accept you in my practice. Typically, online counseling or coaching is not suitable for anyone who is feeling suicidal, is mentally unstable, or has substance abuse issues – all which require an in-person assessment / intervention from a licensed professional in your jurisdiction.
Important Note: Coaching is not the same as counseling. My online licensed counseling services in the United States are available to California residents only – Please visit https://betteronlinecounseling.com for more information.
To learn more about my life coaching services, including my session and package rates, visit https://scapegoatrecovery.com/coaching.
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About Rebecca C. Mandeville, MA, LMFT
Rebecca C. Mandeville, MFT, specializes in recovering from the negative effects of being raised in dysfunctional / abusive family systems. She served as Core Faculty at the Institute of Transpersonal Psychology and is a pioneer in defining and describing what she named (for research purposes) Family Scapegoating Abuse (FSA). Today she focuses on helping family scapegoating abuse survivors navigate the unique challenges they face.
Rebecca works with clients online via a secure video platform as a Counselor and Childhood Trauma Recovery Life Coach. You may email her at email@example.com to set up your 20 minute online consultation to see if her counseling or coaching services are right for you. To follow Rebecca on Facebook visit Family Scapegoat Recovery.