Book About Family Scapegoating Abuse (FSA)

Rejected, Shamed, and Blamed… (Amazon #1 Hot New Release – Book on FSA)

“You may not be able to stop people in your family from scapegoating you, but you can stop identifying with the ‘scapegoat story’ and the dysfunctional and damaging family narrative.”

– Rebecca C. Mandeville, MA, MFT

Welcome! My name is Rebecca C. Mandeville and I’m a licensed Psychotherapist and trauma-informed Recovery Coach. I specialize in helping adults recover from dysfunctional family systems, betrayal trauma, and complex trauma (C-PTSD), as well as what I named (for qualitative research purposes) Family Scapegoating Abuse (FSA).

Scroll down to learn more about ‘Family Scapegoating Abuse’ (FSA) and my FSA Recovery Coaching™️ services.

Note: Due to Amazon suddenly and inexplicably changing their policies around the use of licensed images on book covers, I no longer use any photo images on my Amazon/KDP-distributed books.

Below is a Scapegoat ‘Mini’ Self-Assessment: Were You Scapegoated By Your Family?

  • Did you grow up with an Emotionally Immature, Addicted, Narcissistic, or Personality Disordered Parent / Primary Caregiver?
  • Were you the ‘problem child’ or ‘identified patient’ in your family-of-origin (you may even still be struggling to escape these stifling roles today)?
  • Do you identify as being ‘codependent’ or ‘highly sensitive’ and ‘empathic’? 
  • Were you the ‘truth teller’ in your family? Was it implied that you were emotionally / mentally ill or that you were ‘bad’, ‘wrong’, or a ‘liar’ when you spoke your mind or contradicted the ‘family story’ being promoted by one or both of your parents or a dominant sibling (or other dominant nuclear or extended family member)?
  • Do you find it difficult to develop healthy, mutually respectful relationships with one or more siblings? Do you have a dominant sibling who now treats you in the same manner your dysfunctional / abusive parent did?
  • Do you struggle with addiction or codependency (or both?)
  • Do you have difficulty identifying your own wants, needs, thoughts, and feelings? Do you choose to remain silent ‘to keep the peace’ or avoid conflict at all cost?
  • Have you struggled as an adult with forming healthy, mutually respectful, trusting relationships?
  • Do you wrestle with severe self doubt, including ‘imposter syndrome’?
  • Have you chosen to reduce or limit contact with one or more family members?
  • Do you feel you have been betrayed by one or more family members?


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Learn More About Family Scapegoating Abuse (FSA)

It can be painful – even traumatic – to experience family betrayal.  Trying to get past it and attempting to sort out your feelings and establish a path forward can be complex and challenging, to say the least.

Children and adults who are scapegoated by their family are betrayed by those who are supposed to love and care about them the most.  It can be confusing, shocking, and angering, and many adult survivors struggle with disenfranchised grief and even complex trauma (C-PTSD).

When trying to find your way through difficult and impossible-seeming situations and events, you do not have to deal with it by yourself.

My approach to FSA recovery coaching is informed by my experience as a licensed Psychotherapist specializing in childhood trauma. As a coach, I am committed to meeting the standards, ethics and guidelines set forth by SAMSHA and follow their recommended six key principles of a trauma-informed approach.


To learn more about my international online FSA Recovery Coaching services, including my session and package rates, visit

Contact Me to Set Up Your Free 20 Minute Consultation Using the Below Form

Please be advised that I often have a waiting list. For best results, at least 24 weekly sessions are recommended.

IMPORTANT NOTE: If you are ‘triggered’ when talking about family members and/or do not want to discuss details of being scapegoated, then my services may not be right for you and psychotherapy with an emphasis on recovering from C-PTSD symptoms may be more helpful. Alternatively, if you are in a crisis situation or need more support than one 50-minute session a week can provide, coaching is unlikely to provide you with an appropriate level of psycho-emotional support.

*Experienced and comfortable working with high profile figures, (e.g., celebrities, social media influencers, professional athletes) and understand the unique challenges such clients face.


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Should not be used for diagnostic purposes

More About My Services

My FSA Recovery services are available nationally and internationally via secure video. Psychotherapy services in the United States are available to California residents only (see below).

I am able to work with coaching clients worldwide. Online life coaching is not for everyone. A 20-minute online consultation / assessment is required prior to my agreeing to accept you into my practice. Typically, online counseling or coaching is not suitable for anyone who is feeling suicidal, is mentally unstable, or has substance abuse issues – all which require an in-person assessment / intervention from a licensed professional in your jurisdiction.

Important Note: Coaching is not the same as counseling. My online licensed counseling services in the United States are available to California residents only – Please visit for more information.

To learn more about my international online FSA Recovery Coaching services, including my session and package rates, visit

About Rebecca

Rebecca C Mandeville MFT

Rebecca C. Mandeville, MFT is an internationally recognized family systems expert. She has been serving clients in her private practice as a Psychotherapist and Recovery Coach since 2006. She specializes in trauma-informed and transpersonal approaches to healing and helping ‘Adult Survivors’ recover from the negative effects of being raised in dysfunctional / abusive family systems.

Rebecca began describing and defining what she later named ‘Family Scapegoating Abuse’ (FSA) while serving as Core Faculty at the world-renowned Institute of Transpersonal Psychology. Today she is a pioneer in researching and writing about the overlapping symptoms of family scapegoating abuse (FSA)complex trauma (C-PTSD) and betrayal trauma. Her career is now dedicated to helping family scapegoating abuse survivors and mental health practitioners understand the unique challenges FSA survivors face, as well as developing efficacious FSA treatment and recovery pathways.