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Rejected, Shamed, and Blamed: A Book About Family Scapegoating Abuse (FSA)

Healing and recovery can begin when our pain is acknowledged and validated…

Welcome to my website on family scapegoating and recovery! My name’s Rebecca C. Mandeville and I’m a Psychotherapist and Trauma-Informed Recovery Coach. I’m also the author of the popular self-help book, Rejected, Shamed, and Blamed: Help and Hope for Adults in the Family Scapegoat Role.

As a therapist, coach, educator, and author, I specialize in helping people heal from the psycho-emotional pain of growing up in a dysfunctional or abusive family system. I also research, write, and teach on the subjects of family scapegoating, betrayal trauma, and complex trauma (C-PTSD).

You may not be able to stop people in your family from scapegoating you, but you can stop identifying with the ‘scapegoat story’ and the dysfunctional and damaging family narrative.

From Rejected, Shamed, and Blamed: Help and Hope for Adults in the Family Scapegoat Role

Were you repeatedly bullied, shamed, blamed, or rejected by a parent, sibling, or other relative growing up or as an adult? Have you felt that your concerns about how certain family members were treating you were invalidated or dismissed, perhaps even by helping professionals or friends you counted on to understand?

It can be painful – even traumatic – to experience family betrayal.  Trying to get past it and attempting to sort out your feelings and establish a path forward can be complex and challenging, to say the least.

Children and adults who are scapegoated by their family are betrayed by those who are supposed to love and care about them the most.  It can be confusing, shocking, and angering, and many adult survivors struggle with disenfranchised grief and even complex trauma (C-PTSD).

Learn more about Family Scapegoating Abuse by taking the FSA QUIZ.

When trying to find your way through difficult and impossible-seeming situations and events, you do not have to deal with it by yourself. My introductory educational guide on family scapegoating and recovery is informed by my pioneering research on family scapegoating abuse (FSA) and my clinical experience as a psychotherapist treating those who were covertly or overtly abused in this manner by their families.


My book on what I named Family Scapegoating Abuse (FSA) is available on Amazon in both Kindle and Paperback formats.

You may also purchase it at these online Book Retailers.

You can also ask your local bookstore to order the paperback (print) version from the IngramSpark catalog. You may also buy the ePub version direct from the author via the secure PayHip site for just $4.99.

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My approach to FSA Recovery

My FSA Recovery Coaching™️ practice is informed by my experience as a licensed Psychotherapist specializing in childhood trauma. As a coach, I am committed to meeting the standards, ethics and guidelines set forth by SAMSHA and follow their recommended six key principles of a trauma-informed approach.

To learn more about my international online FSA Recovery Coaching services, including my session and package rates, visit

Rebecca C Mandeville MFT

Rebecca C. Mandeville, MFT is an internationally recognized Family Systems expert. She has been serving clients in her private practice as a Psychotherapist and Recovery Coach since 2006. She began describing and defining what she later named ‘Family Scapegoating Abuse’ (FSA) while serving as Core Faculty at the world-renowned Institute of Transpersonal Psychology. She is a pioneer in researching and writing about the overlapping symptoms of family scapegoating abuse (FSA)complex trauma (C-PTSD), and betrayal trauma, and the devastating impact and effects of multigenerational trauma. Her career is now dedicated to helping family scapegoating abuse survivors and mental health practitioners understand the unique challenges FSA survivors face, as well as developing efficacious FSA treatment and recovery pathways.