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Are you impacted by Family Scapegoating Abuse ?

Welcome to my website. My name is Rebecca C. Mandeville and I’m a Psychotherapist, Certified Clinical Trauma Professional, Family Systems researcher; and the author of Rejected, Shamed, and Blamed. Not only do I research on, write about, and help people recover from what I named family scapegoating abuse (FSA) – I’ve lived it. I therefore understand the unique challenges that adult survivors of FSA face. One of my main goals in writing my book and starting this blog (and now my YouTube channelBeyond Family Scapegoating Abuse) was to educate Adult Survivors of dysfunctional and narcissistic family systems and Mental Health professionals on this damaging systemic phenomenon, which is at times related to, but distinct from, narcissistic abuse.

Despite the devastating consequences to adult survivors, scapegoating in families remains an under-researched, poorly understood dysfunctional family process. If you’ve experienced any of the below, you may be the ‘identified patient’ or ‘scapegoat’ in your family:

  • You have been rejected, shamed, blamed, or bullied by family members. Any feelings you have about this are dismissed, diminished, or denied.
  • You’ve been the victim of a family ‘smear’ campaign designed to discredit you, defame you, or destroy your reputation.
  • You’ve been called a “liar”; a “faker”; or “crazy” by one or more members of your family.
  • You’ve been called “too sensitive”; “dramatic”; or “difficult” by one or more members of your family.
  • Your accomplishments and successes are ignored and go unacknowledged by your family.
  • You feel frustrated, angry, or confused due to feeling rejected, shamed, blamed, or bullied by your family-of-origin.
  • You have considered cutting ties with one or more members of your family to protect your mental and emotional health.
  • Your family members imply you “fake” or “make up” injuries and illnesses.
  • You suffer from anxiety, depression, impostor syndrome, or complex trauma (C-PTSD) symptoms.
  • You experience ‘triggers’ and are emotionally activated around your family-of-origin (I named this Family Scapegoating Trauma, or FST).

Resources for Family Scapegoat Recovery: In addition to my current offerings, ONLINE COURSES on Family Scapegoating Abuse Recovery are currently in development. The first course is FREE. To be sure you don’t miss the notification that the courses are ready, sign up to my mailing list.


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Rebecca C. Mandeville, LMFT, CCTP

  1. Why family scapegoating behaviors qualify as psycho-emotional abuse in highly dysfunctional and narcissistic families.
  2. Sharing my years of clinical and academic qualitative research findings on what I eventually named ‘Family Scapegoating Abuse’ (FSA) and more recently, ‘Family Scapegoating Trauma’ (FST) to educate both adult survivors and interested Mental Health professionals on this poorly understood dysfunctional family phenomenon.
  3. How a systemic defense mechanism known as the  Family Projective Identification Process (which is similar to a shared family ‘psychosis’) can fuel family scapegoating abuse in DYSFUNCTIONAL family systems. In NARCISSISTIC family systems, scapegoating can be fueled by a narcissistic family power-holder who controls and creates the ‘scapegoat narrative’ used to demean and diminish you within your nuclear and extended family – and beyond.
  4. Why family scapegoating abuse adult survivors should be clinically assessed for complex trauma (C-PTSD) symptoms and engage in trauma-informed treatment pathways under the guidance of a licensed, trauma-certified Mental Health professional with Family Systems training.
  5. Understanding the inter-play between family scapegoating abuse; the family projective identification process; intergenerational trauma; toxic shame; betrayal trauma; and complex trauma (C-PTSD).

It’s been rewarding to see the interest in my work on family scapegoating abuse (FSA) growing steadily since I published my book, Rejected, Shamed, and Blamed, over two years ago. There can understandably be resistance on some people’s part in regard to accepting the fact that some processes related to FSA can be unconscious; however, it has been my experience that this is a critical piece of information for adult survivors of FSA who grew up in a dysfunctional, versus narcissistic, family system, as it validates the reality of their having been harmed by this form of insidious ‘invisible’ abuse. Scroll down to learn more about FSA.


Where to Purchase Rejected Shamed and Blamed Internationally

Purchase on Amazon (U.S.) (Amazon has the Kindle, Paperback, and Hardcover version)

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Understanding what happened to you is the first critical step toward healing: What readers are saying about Rejected, Shamed, and Blamed:

“As a clinical social worker, I enthusiastically recommend this book!” – Amazon reviewer

“Very good book on an oft-misunderstood family dynamic.” – Amazon reviewer

“Life-changing read!” – Amazon reviewer

Your book offers healing that I thought would never be possible! “- YouTube Subscriber

“My psychologist gave me your book to read. I finally could understand what happened to me in my family and now know what to do to recover from it. Your book literally saved my life!” – YouTube Subscriber

“Finally, a book written by a licensed clinician who has worked as a Family Therapist. Your insights on dysfunctional families that scapegoat are invaluable! ” – YouTube Subscriber

This is an excellent book for patients or practitioners. The author shares her extensive experience working with and studying toxic families and how to recover from the experience. This book is a must have for anyone treating those from dysfunctional families or family members themselves.– Melissa Petty, LMSW

A survival strategy is a way of getting out of childhood alive.

Frank Jones Sulloway

What is Family Scapegoating Abuse (FSA)?

Family scapegoating is an insidious form of “invisible” abuse that is difficult to recognize. Because scapegoating can happen in any dysfunctional family system (not just a narcissistic one), it is critical that adult survivors understand what type of abuse they are trying to recover from

I have been treating scapegoated adult survivors in clinics and in my private psychotherapy practice for over 20 years. I’ve also used my clinical and academic research findings on what I named Family Scapegoating Abuse (FSA) to help survivors recognize and release the damaging ‘scapegoat narrative’ associated with the family ‘identified patient’ role.

My orientation as a transpersonal/humanistic licensed practitioner also serves to provide clients with unique ways of exploring their role as ‘family scapegoat’ and how they might both transcend and transmute this role, which is often rooted in intergenerational trauma.

Family scapegoating and its effect on children and adult survivors has been grossly overlooked and under-researched in the Mental Health field. By naming this form of ‘invisible’ abuse Family Scapegoating Abuse (FSA) and identifying its features, adult survivors, clinicians, and coaches may now use a common language and descriptive terms to describe a type of abuse that is often insidious and subtle.

My book, Rejected. Shamed, and Blamed: Help and Hope for Adults in the Family Scapegoat Role, is recognized as a pioneering work in the field of Family Systems. This best-selling introductory guide focuses on understanding the traumatizing aspects of family scapegoating dynamics in your dysfunctional family-of-origin.

I have greatly appreciated the many emails and blog comments I’ve received from readers all around the world thanking me for giving this particular form of psycho-emotional abuse a distinct and descriptive name – one that distinguishes it from ‘narcissistic abuse’ – as not every family member who scapegoats is a narcissist, nor are all families that scapegoat narcissistic family systems. I’m heartened to know that so many of you have found it helpful to have a clinical (non-DSM) term to describe your painful and confusing family experiences.

FSA can lead to Complex Trauma (C-PTSD) symptoms

When neither resistance or escape is possible, the human system of self-defense becomes overwhelmed and disorganized. Each component of the ordinary response to danger, having lost its utility, tends to persist in an altered and exaggerated state long after the actual danger is over.

– Judith Herman, 1992

During my research on family scapegoating dynamics while serving as Core Faculty at the Institute of Transpersonal Psychology (now called Sofia University), I observed certain patterns of individual and systemic behavior specifically affecting those who were in the role of scapegoat child or identified patient in their dysfunctional family system. l later named the harmful (even traumatizing) phenomena such children and adults are subjected to in relation to family scapegoating dynamics and processes Family Scapegoating Abuse (FSA). More recently, I began to identify the overlapping symptoms of FSA and complex trauma (C-PTSD), as well as betrayal trauma. I’ve recently named this particular constellation of trauma symptoms related to family scapegoating abuse Family Scapegoating Trauma (FST).

Family scapegoating processes are insidious. Those who are the target of family scapegoating behaviors often have difficulty describing what is happening to them to others. Rejected, Shamed, and Blamed validates the experiences of adult survivors who are suffering in the ‘family scapegoat’ role. Topics covered include:

  • Intergenerational Trauma
  • Distorted Family Narratives
  • Betrayal Trauma
  • Disenfranchised Grief
  • Toxic Shame and the False Self
  • Complex Trauma (C-PTSD) Symptoms
  • Family Scapegoating Trauma (FST)

To learn more about family scapegoating abuse (FSA), you may purchase my introductory book, Rejected, Shamed, and Blamed. Thank you to all my readers who helped make this a best-seller at various popular online book retailers since its release in 2020. I no longer advertise or promote this book so if you find value in it and know someone who might benefit from reading it, please consider linking them to this website. You can access my YouTube Playlist here.

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My FSA Recovery Coaching services are informed by my experience as a licensed Psychotherapist specializing in childhood trauma. As a Certified Clinical Trauma Professional, I am committed to meeting the standards, ethics and guidelines set forth by SAMSHA and follow their recommended six key principles of a trauma-informed approach.


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