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Family Scapegoating Abuse (FSA) Questionnaire™


It is a myth that scapegoating in families is always overt and obvious. While scapegoating at times includes ‘family mobbing’ and ‘gang bullying’, it more often is systemic, insidious and subtle. To make matters even more challenging, children in families that scapegoat are often conditioned to tolerate this form of ‘invisible’ (psycho-emotional) abuse, making this an extremely difficult form of abuse for adult survivors to recognize and recover from.

Are You Suffering From Family Scapegoating Abuse? Take the FSA Questionnaire to find out…

Keep track of how many questions you answer YES to and add them up at the end.

Take the FSA Questionnaire:

  1. Family members often blame me for problems that are not my fault.
    • Yes / No
  2. I am frequently criticized or singled out by family members.
    • Yes / No
  3. Family members often treat me unfairly compared to others.
    • Yes / No
  4. I feel like I am the “black sheep” of my family.
    • Yes / No
  5. My opinions and feelings are often dismissed or invalidated by family members.
    • Yes / No
  6. Family members frequently gang up against me or exclude me from family activities.
    • Yes / No
  7. I often feel like I am walking on eggshells (i.e., I have to be very cautious and careful regarding what I say or do) around my family.
    • Yes / No
  8. Family members often make hurtful or derogatory remarks about me to my face or behind my back.
    • Yes / No
  9. I am often made to feel responsible for the problems or conflicts within my family.
    • Yes / No
  10. I have experienced emotional or psychological distress as a result of interactions with my family.
    • Yes / No
  11. My family tends to ignore or minimize my achievements or successes.
    • Yes / No
  12. I feel like I am always the target of family members’ anger or frustration.
    • Yes / No
  13. Family members often gaslight me, making me doubt my own perceptions and experiences.
    • Yes / No
  14. I feel isolated or alienated from other family members due to the scapegoating.
    • Yes / No
  15. The scapegoating has affected my self-esteem and self-worth.
    • Yes / No
  16. I have experienced physical harm or violence as a result of family scapegoating.
    • Yes / No
  17. The scapegoating has impacted my relationships outside of the family.
    • Yes / No
  18. I often feel anxious or fearful around family members because of past scapegoating incidents.
    • Yes / No
  19. The scapegoating has contributed to feelings of depression or hopelessness.
    • Yes / No
  20. I have attempted to confront or address the scapegoating within my family, but it has been met with resistance or denial.
    • Yes / No
  21. The scapegoating has affected my ability to trust others or form healthy relationships.
    • Yes / No
  22. I have sought therapy or professional help to cope with the effects of family scapegoating.
    • Yes / No
  23. I often feel powerless or trapped within my family dynamic due to the scapegoating.
    • Yes / No
  24. The scapegoating has interfered with my academic or career aspirations.
    • Yes / No
  25. I have been called “crazy,” “mentally ill,” “emotionally stable” by family members (either to my face or behind my back).
    • Yes / No

The above questions aim to delve deeper into the various ways in which family scapegoating abuse can impact the victim’s emotional well-being, relationships, and overall life experiences. Review your YES answers. The questions you answered ‘Yes’ to indicates areas in which you may have experienced Family Scapegoating Abuse (FSA) as a child or adult child. The more questions you answered “Yes” to, the more likely it is that FSA has negatively impacted your life.


“I answered ‘Yes’ to many of the questions. What do I do now?”


Steps You Can Take TODAY to Begin Recovering From FSA

Family Scapegoating Abuse (FSA) is real. Until recently, adult survivors of FSA had no language, including terms, to express the phenomenon they were experiencing in their families. My research on what I eventually named family scapegoating abuse (FSA), which formed the basis of my introductory book on this often insidious and subtle form of family abuse, Rejected, Shamed, and Blamed, at last legitimatized the experiences of FSA adult survivors around the world.

To get started with your FSA recovery today, you have a few options:

  1. Purchase my introductory book on FSA, Rejected, Shamed, and Blamed, to better understand what may have happened to you in your dysfunctional (or narcissistic) family system (use the Universal Buy Link, below, to access Amazon, B & N, and other online retailers, as well as book subscription services).
  2. Explore FSA and its possible impact on you further by completing this Family Scapegoating Abuse (FSA) Recovery Worksheet.
  3. Connect with other FSA adult survivors who are learning about FSA and committed to recovering from its affects on my YouTube channel. Learn more about membership tiers and benefits.
  4. Not in a position to make a financial investment in your FSA Recovery at this time? Check out my FSA Adult Survivor Resource Page for addition FSA adult survivor resources.
Family Scapegoat Book

Purchase my introductory book on FSA, Rejected, Shamed, and Blamed

Universal Buy Link (UBL). Amazon carries the digital (Kindle), paperback, and hard cover versions of my best-selling book on FSA


What People Are Saying About ‘Rejected, Shamed, and Blamed’

“As a clinical social worker, I enthusiastically recommend this book!” – Amazon reviewer

“Very good book on an oft-misunderstood family dynamic.” – Amazon reviewer

“Life-changing read!” – Amazon Customer

“If you think or know you’ve suffered/are suffering from Family Scapegoat Abuse, run – don’t walk – to the add to cart button. This book is clear & concise & informative & ACCURATE…I felt like the author completely described my life. After reading this, I feel understood…and empowered to heal and finally kick this scapegoat role to the curb. I wish anyone else who has dealt with this a life free from such a painful, pervasive issue. I am certain you’ll find this book extremely helpful.”
Much gratitude to the author :
) – Amazon Customer

Your book offers healing that I thought would never be possible! “- YouTube Subscriber

“My psychologist gave me your book to read. I finally could understand what happened to me in my family and now know what to do to recover from it. Your book literally saved my life!” – YouTube Subscriber

“Finally, a book written by a licensed clinician who has worked as a Family Therapist. Your insights on dysfunctional families that scapegoat are invaluable! ” – YouTube Subscriber

This is an excellent book for patients or practitioners. The author shares her extensive experience working with and studying toxic families and how to recover from the experience. This book is a must have for anyone treating those from dysfunctional families or family members themselves.– Melissa Petty, LMSW

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