By Rebecca C. Mandeville, MFTLast updated: 5 Jun 2020~ 5 MIN READ It would be nice to believe that when children turn into adults they are somehow magically released from the family …
Author: R.C. Mandeville, MA
R.C. Mandeville is a licensed Clinician, Trauma-Informed Life Coach, and Family Systems expert. She is a pioneer in identifying, defining, describing, and bringing attention to Family Scapegoat Abuse (FSA). She is also the creator of the Scapegoat Recovery Life Coaching Process™. She is currently authoring a book on Family Scapegoat Recovery, which will be released in 2020, and has an 'Expert' blog on Psych Central ('Scapegoat Recovery').
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Family Scapegoat Abuse Signs & Symptoms – eBook
This 50-page PDF-style eBook explores the ‘invisible’ psycho-emotional wounds of the Family Scapegoat that are specific to what the author (a licensed family systems expert) terms family scapegoat abuse (FSA) – a specific type of psycho-emotional abuse warranting special considerations beyond the umbrella of ‘narcissistic abuse’.
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Ten Strategies for Surviving Dysfunctional Family Holiday Gatherings
Holidays can be a very stressful time in general – but if you were raised in a dysfunctional family system, it can go beyond ordinary stress and enter the ‘danger’ …
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The Invisible Wounds of the Family Scapegoat
The genuine pain and trauma experienced by children and adult children stuck in the family scapegoat role is invisible, but that doesn’t make it any less real. Scapegoat abuse (which is actually a form of systemic bullying) is a particularly aggressive form of child emotional abuse in that the power-holders in the family system – most often one or both parents – view a particular child through a lens of constant negativity, projecting all of their own repressed toxic shame onto their child.
10 Steps To End People-Pleasing Behavior: Stop Placating Others and Step Into Your Truth!
By R.C. Mandeville, MACP If you’re a People-Pleaser, you likely avoid conflict as much as possible in your interactions with others and will deny your own truth in an attempt …
10 Strategies For Discovering and Living As Your True Self
If you find yourself continuing to act out old patterns and roles that no longer serve you, this is more than likely interfering with your ability to create mutually rewarding, respectful, and reciprocal relationships. Below are my ten strategies for getting in touch with your true self so as to create an integrity-based and emotionally rewarding life.
Understanding Toxic Shame
Sometimes clients will hear me talking about ‘toxic shame’ and there will usually be a lot of questions about what toxic shame actually is, and what makes it different than …
The Primal Wound and the Quest for an Authentic Life
Article by R.C. Mandeville, MA, MACP, MFT In last month’s article Love At Any Price, I discussed childhood attachment and the development of a ‘false self’. This week I will …
Love At Any Price: Childhood Attachment and The False Self
by R.C. Mandeville, MA, MACP, MFT This week’s article explores how we might unconsciously learn to live from a ‘false self ‘ during childhood, versus our true, ‘authentic self’, so …
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16 Family Scapegoat Signs: Are You Suffering From Family Scapegoating Abuse (FSA)?
Are you the family scapegoat? Read these 16 signs to find out!