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Rejected, Shamed, and Blamed: The Book

You may not be able to stop people in your family from scapegoating you, but you can stop identifying with the ‘scapegoat story’ and the dysfunctional and damaging family narrative.

To learn more about family scapegoating abuse (FSA), you may purchase my introductory book, Rejected, Shamed, and Blamed, via the links below. Thank you to all my readers who helped make this a best-seller at various online book retailers since its release in 2020. I no longer advertise or promote this book so if you find value in it and know someone who might need to read it, please pass it on.

Rebecca C. Mandeville, MFT
My introductory psycho-educational guide, Rejected, Shamed, and Blamed, is informed by my research on what I named family scapegoating abuse (FSA) while serving as Core Faculty at the Institute of Transpersonal Psychology, and by over 20 years experience working with scapegoated adult survivors in clinical and private practice settings.
Buy Rejected, Shamed, and Blamed: Help and Hope for Adults in the Family Scapegoat Role on Amazon.
You can also purchase the eBook at these online Book Retailers.

This is an excellent book for patients or practitioners. The author shares her extensive experience working with and studying toxic families and how to recover from the experience. This book is a must have for anyone treating those from dysfunctional families or family members themselves.

– Melissa Petty, LMSW


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I finally know the core of my problem – the relation between scapegoating and trauma is key, too.

– Amazon Reviewer

BOOK DESCRIPTION

Family scapegoating is an insidious form of “invisible” abuse that is difficult to recognize. It is therefore critical that adult survivors understand what type of abuse they are trying to recover from. In Rejected, Shamed, and Blamed, Psychotherapist and Family Systems expert Rebecca C. Mandeville uses her research findings on what she named family scapegoating abuse (FSA) to help survivors recognize and release the damaging ‘scapegoat’ narrative. This 2nd revision includes additional recovery suggestions and resources, as well as updated links (Kindle version).


In these pages you’ll discover:

  • The FSA Self-Assessment Test
  • How to recognize and identify family scapegoating abuse (FSA) signs and symptoms
  • Why scapegoated individuals have difficulty recognizing they are being abused
  • How complex trauma (C-PTSD)betrayal trauma, and toxic shame impede FSA recovery
  • How intergenerational trauma and false narratives fuel family scapegoating dynamics
  • Why the family ‘Empath’ can end up scapegoated
  • Strategies to reduce fawning behaviors and realign with your ‘true self’
  • Recommended resources and therapy modalities for FSA recovery


From the Author: “Scapegoating in any social system is a dehumanizing process of ‘othering’. When you are the target of scapegoating in your family-of-origin, the consequences to your mental and emotional health can be severe, including the development of complex trauma (C-PTSD) symptoms. This introductory guide’s purpose is to help the reader determine if they are in the ‘family scapegoat’ role; also, to better understand family scapegoating dynamics and the devastating consequences of being ‘rejected, shamed, and blamed’ by the people who were supposed to love and care for them the most.”

Rebecca C. Mandeville is a licensed Marriage, Family Therapist and recognized Family Systems expert. She has over 20 years experience in treating adult survivors of dysfunctional family abuse in both clinical and private practice settings.. She coined the term family scapegoating abuse (FSA) while researching family scapegoating’s impact on the targeted child / adult child while Core Faculty at the Institute of Transpersonal Psychology. She is also a pioneer in identifying the overlapping symptoms of family scapegoating abuse (FSA), complex trauma (C-PTSD), betrayal trauma, and the devastating impact and effects of multigenerational trauma on adult survivors of dysfunctional, narcissistic, or abusive family systems.

Those who like to read books written by licensed Mental Health professionals that address healing from the effects of Dysfunctional or Toxic Families; Narcissistic Abuse; Narcissistic Families; Gaslighting; Toxic Relationships and Going ‘No Contact’; Complex Trauma (C-PTSD); Dysfunctional Family Dynamics; Multigenerational Trauma; Empaths; (the) Highly Sensitive Person (HSP); Child Abuse; Bullying; and Adult Survivors of Child Abuse and Toxic Family Abuse may especially appreciate this book.

©2020 Rebecca C. Mandeville All Rights Reserved


Rejected, Shamed, and Blamed was a 2021 Eric Hoffer Book Awards Finalist.

Editorial Reviews

This much needed work by Rebecca C. Mandeville provides a comprehensive introduction to the subject of family scapegoating and serves as a starting point for survivor awareness and further research for professionals if they want to begin filling in the gaps for this misunderstood and under-served community. 

It serves an important niche within Family Systems literature, as it was written for those who were assigned the role of ‘family scapegoat’ within their dysfunctional family system.  It adeptly addresses with specificity the abuses and emotional injuries scapegoated adults experience, which are distinct, and often more damaging than those associated with other dysfunctional family roles.

– Lisa Marie Campagnoli, Certified Trauma Recovery Coach, RYT-200


A much-needed adjunct to the Family Systems model. Suitable for clinicans, clients, and lay-persons.

– Shellie Krick, MSW

This is an excellent book for patients or practitioners. The author shares her extensive experience working with and studying toxic families and how to recover from the experience. This book is a must have for anyone treating those from dysfunctional families or family members themselves.

– Melissa Petty, LMSW

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My book on what I named Family Scapegoating Abuse (FSA) is available on Amazon.

You can also purchase the eBook at these online Book Retailers.


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