why do i get scapegoated

“Why Do I Seem to Get Scapegoated Wherever I Go?

New Vlog Release – and announcing a new series on YouTube on my new Beyond Family Scapegoating Abuse Channel, Subscriber Question of the Week:

This week’s subscriber question is: “Why do I seem to find myself in the ‘scapegoat’ role wherever I go?”

Video Description: Were you the scapegoat in your family-of-origin and now it seems like you end up in the ‘scapegoat’ role at work, church, school, or other groups or organizations you are involved with?

Do you wonder why this might be so?

The answer is complex and may surprise you – especially for those who have been scapegoated by family since early childhood. Join the author of ‘Rejected, Shamed, and Blamed’, psychotherapist Rebecca C. Mandeville, as she addresses this question from a ‘Beyond Family Scapegoating Abuse’ subscriber in a holistic manner that includes a brief discussion of how early childhood brain development and complex trauma (C-PTSD) can contribute to your being scapegoated beyond your family-of-origin.

Have a question about family scapegoating abuse? Feel free to leave your question in the comments here or on this video’s comment section.


5 comments / Add your comment below

  1. Great video Rebecca. It makes a lot of sense and gave me a lot of food for thought. Is it the past experiences that come into the present and expecting to be scapegoated? I know personally I am always on the lookout for it and I suppose the better way to be is to not to let any preconceived notions rule my thoughts. It’s hard to undo.

    1. Hi Diana, thanks for the comment. Glad you liked the video. This is why I continuously bring up the idea of “releasing the scapegoat narrative” – to completely dis-identify from it. This is a necessary step in fully recovering from FSA. People (including family) can throw those negative and distorted narratives at you, but they don’t need to ‘stick’. I discuss this in my video, ‘Are you trapped in the family scapegoat role’ on my YouTube channel, btw.

      1. I think I’m capable of getting to the no-stick stage. I’m not grieving the lost family anymore, but I’m astonished and freaked out that the scape goaters direct such abuse at us and basically get away with it. It really seems so sick to me now.

  2. This is something that I’ve been wondering about for years, like did I have something written on my forehead? I’ve only started to understand what goes on very recently by working very hard at tracking triggers. So much to unpack and untangle. I’d like to vanquish the demons all attached to my older sister, and feel that I’m getting closer to believing that I’m capable. Thanks so much for your work. It’s very intricate and invaluable to us survivors.

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