A therapist friend shared this meme with me today and I thought my readers here would appreciate it. It got me to thinking: It is always a curious thing when…
I recently received the following review on my book on family scapegoating abuse, Rejected, Shamed, and Blamed. As one client of mine who read this review said, “Wow – they really nailed it!” I am sharing the review with you here and hope you can take a moment to read it.
Mother’s Day can be a particularly painful holiday for adult survivors of family scapegoating abuse (FSA), especially for those that are estranged from their nuclear family. Today’s article therefore focuses on mother wounding and transforming the ‘negative mother’ archetype.
nnection with, and embodying, your ‘true self’, free of the ‘shaming and blaming’ family
scapegoat (false) narrative.
A question I am often asked by clients and readers of my book, Rejected, Shamed, and Blamed, is whether or not family scapegoating abuse (FSA) is conscious and intentional or unconscious and unintentional. My answer is that it can be either or both, and that nothing is simple or black and white when it comes to this uniquely complex family system process.
Family scapegoating abuse (FSA) may be intentionally overlooked or rationalized by family members. The scapegoated child or adult will rarely get validation if they attempt to share their experiences of mistreatment or abuse. Siblings will frequently adopt the ‘scapegoat narrative’ promoted by the family system power-holder (typically a parent), causing the FSA victim to become isolated and cut off within their family-of-origin.
This week’s article explores how the scapegoated child may unconsciously live as a ‘false self’ so as to experience a sense of attachment and belonging with their primary caregivers…
As the world watches in horror, Vladimir Putin provides us with an astounding example of Dr. Jennifer Freyd’s brilliant concept of ‘DARVO’, (Deny, Attack, Reverse Victim and Offender), which I…
FSA RECOVERY COACHING TRAININGFor Licensed Therapists & Certified Coaches FSA RECOVERY COACHING TRAINING WITH REBECCA C. MANDEVILLE, MFT Dear Practitioner: I am currently in the process of putting together online…
The following is an excerpt from my book on FSA, Rejected, Shamed, and Blamed: Help and Hope for Adults in the Family Scapegoat Role. While repressing core parts of ourselves…