adult survivors of toxic family abuse – Family Scapegoating Abuse (FSA) Education™

5 Reasons Your Family Won’t Apologize for Scapegoating You

by Rebecca C Mandeville LMFT CCTP
August 14, 2022May 24, 2024
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Dysfunctional family systems are ‘closed’ systems that resist integrating information that threatens the accepted family narrative. Family members who have scapegoated you will rarely accept responsibility for their actions, despite how egregious their mistreatment of you has been. Below are five reasons why you are unlikely to ever receive an apology from your family for their shameful treatment of you.

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Does Your Family Know They Are Scapegoating You?

by Rebecca C Mandeville LMFT CCTP
April 24, 2022May 24, 2024
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A question I am often asked by clients and readers of my book, Rejected, Shamed, and Blamed, is whether or not family scapegoating abuse (FSA) is conscious and intentional or unconscious and unintentional. My answer is that it can be either or both, and that nothing is simple or black and white when it comes to this uniquely complex family system process.