One of the most common phrases I have heard from clients over the past 20 years practicing as a licensed Psychotherapist and certified trauma-informed Coach is, “I’m done!” “I’m done” can mean many things. Therefore, my first question is always, “What are you done with?” Are you done with fawning and submitting as a means…
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About Rebecca C. Mandeville, MA
Rebecca C. Mandeville coined the research-supported terms 'family scapegoating abuse' (FSA) and 'family scapegoat trauma' (FST) and is a recognized thought leader in understanding the consequences of being in the family 'identified patient' or 'scapegoat' role. Her best-selling book, 'Rejected, Shamed, and Blamed', is the first book ever written on FSA. Rebecca serves as a YouTube Health Partner via her channel 'Beyond Family Scapegoating Abuse' and is also active on Instagram and Facebook.
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A therapist friend shared this meme with me today and I thought my readers here would appreciate it. It got me to thinking: It is always a curious thing when I set limits and boundaries with someone and they are surprised or resentful because I am a therapist. They act hurt, even angry at times,…
A Licensed Clinical Social Worker’s Perspective on Family Scapegoating Abuse (FSA)
I recently received the following review on my book on family scapegoating abuse, Rejected, Shamed, and Blamed. As one client of mine who read this review said, “Wow – they really nailed it!” I am sharing the review with you here and hope you can take a moment to read it.
Family Scapegoating Abuse and Healing the Mother Wound
Mother’s Day can be a particularly painful holiday for adult survivors of family scapegoating abuse (FSA), especially for those that are estranged from their nuclear family. Today’s article therefore focuses on mother wounding and transforming the ‘negative mother’ archetype.
To Meet Publishing Requirements, This Free Preview Chapter From My Book ‘Rejected, Shamed, and Blamed’ Is No Longer Available
This article was originally published on Psych Central as an advance preview of my book on family scapegoating abuse (FSA), Rejected, Shamed, and Blamed. To comply with Amazon’s publishing requirements, I am no longer able to offer portions of my book for free online. Visit my blog to see more articles on family scapegoating. Rebecca…
Does Your Family Know They Are Scapegoating You?
A question I am often asked by clients and readers of my book, Rejected, Shamed, and Blamed, is whether or not family scapegoating abuse (FSA) is conscious and intentional or unconscious and unintentional. My answer is that it can be either or both, and that nothing is simple or black and white when it comes to this uniquely complex family system process.
To Meet Publishing Requirements, This Free Preview Chapter From My Book ‘Rejected, Shamed, and Blamed’ Is No Longer Available
Visit my blog to learn more about family scapegoating.
To Meet Publishing Requirements, This Free Preview Chapter From My Book ‘Rejected, Shamed, and Blamed’ Is No Longer Available
This article was originally published on Psych Central as an advance preview of my book on family scapegoating abuse (FSA), Rejected, Shamed, and Blamed. To comply with Amazon’s publishing requirements, I am no longer able to offer portions of my book for free online. Visit my blog to see more articles on family scapegoating and…
DARVO to the 100th Power…
As the world watches in horror, Vladimir Putin provides us with an astounding example of Dr. Jennifer Freyd’s brilliant concept of ‘DARVO’, (Deny, Attack, Reverse Victim and Offender), which I wrote about in a recent article. This is an excerpt from an article today in Reuters: Russia continued its assault on Ukraine Sunday morning on…
FSA Recovery Coaching Training for Licensed Therapists and Certified Coaches
FSA RECOVERY COACHING TRAININGFor Licensed Therapists & Certified Coaches FSA RECOVERY COACHING TRAINING WITH REBECCA C. MANDEVILLE, MFT Dear Practitioner: I am currently in the process of putting together online training courses on what I named Family Scapegoating Abuse (FSA). I hope to have the initial courses available in 2023. If you’d like me to email…