Help for Family Scapegoats from Someone Who Understands…
It can be painful – even traumatic – to be the target of family scapegoating. Trying to get past it and attempting to sort out your feelings and establish a path forward can be complex and challenging, to say the least.
Scapegoated individuals are often highly empathic, emotionally ‘tuned in’ and sensitive, and are often the ‘truth-teller’ in their family – which is one of the reasons they are targeted by the power-holders in their family-of-origin
When trying to find your way through difficult and possibly traumatic situations and events, you do not have to deal with it by yourself.
My name is Rebecca Mandevilleand I’m a licensed Psychotherapist, trauma-informed Life Coach, and Family Systems expert. I understand the pain of being in the family scapegoat role first-hand, which allows me to deeply empathize with my clients’ experiences and challenges. I would love the opportunity to discuss your individual needs to help you determine if my Scapegoat Recovery Life Coaching Services are right for you.
Over the many years I’ve been in practice as a counselor and coach, I’ve had the opportunity to work with countless individuals who struggle with being in the family scapegoat role. Eventually I began researching family scapegoat dynamics, and eventually able to clearly identify, define, and describe what I now term Family Scapegoat Abuse (FSA)
One thing that became clear to me early on in my research: Scapegoated adults often don’t realize how their familial distress has been negatively impacting nearly every area of their life, including their mental and emotional health, relationships, work, and their ability to realize their most cherished goals and dreams.
Scapegoated adults often feel debilitated by self-doubt and ‘imposter syndrome’ in their relationships and in the work-place, and blame themselves for their difficulties. They typically find themselves unable to create a sense of mission, passion, and purpose, and find themselves succumbing to feelings of futility, hopelessness, and even depression, anxiety, and despair.
They do not realize how being the family scapegoat is affecting their ability to succeed and thrive in their personal and professional life. But there is a way through the pain and confusion of being cast into this most painful and damaging role.
Scapegoat Recovery Life Coaching is trauma-informed. It can help you to set and achieve goals, overcome obstacles, and maintain motivation while learning how to move past family trauma.
My unique insights into family scapegoating dynamics along with my years of intensive professional work with scapegoated clients eventually led to my developing the Scapegoat Recovery Life Coaching Process as a means of helping disenfranchised individuals reclaim and re-author their lives, which I now use in my counseling and coaching practices when working with scapegoated adults.
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Has being the Family Scapegoat inhibited your ability to succeed and thrive in life? Do you feel hopeless, confused, anxious, or depressed? Use the form below to request your FREE Online Consultation to learn how I can help you break free of negative family conditioning so that you can live from your core truth, free of doubt, confusion, and uncertainty. I look forward to connecting with you today!
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You’ve Been Held Back In Life Due To Family Scapegoating Dynamics Long Enough.
Below is a Scapegoat Self-Assessment: Were You Scapegoated By Your Family?
Did you grow up with an Emotionally Immature, Addicted, Narcissistic, or Personality Disordered Parent / Primary Caregiver?
Were you the ‘problem child’ or ‘identified patient’ in your family-of-origin (you may even still be struggling to escape these stifling roles today)?
Do you identify as being ‘codependent’ or ‘highly sensitive’ and ‘empathic’?
Were you the ‘truth teller’ in your family? Was it implied that you were emotionally / mentally ill or that you were ‘bad’, ‘wrong’, or a ‘liar’ when you spoke your mind and/or contradicted the ‘family story’ being promoted by one or both of your parents and/or a dominant sibling (or other dominant nuclear or extended family member)?
Do you find it difficult to develop healthy, mutually respectful relationships with one or more siblings? Do you have a dominant sibling who now treats you in the same manner your dysfunctional / abusive parent did?
Do you struggle with addiction or codependency (or both?)
Do you have difficulty identifying your own wants, needs, thoughts, and feelings? Do you choose to remain silent ‘to keep the peace’ and/or avoid conflict at all cost?
Have you struggled as an adult with forming healthy, mutually respectful, trusting relationships?
Do you feel chronically anxious, depressed, and/or wrestle with severe self doubt, including ‘imposter syndrome’?
Have you chosen to reduce or limit contact with one or more (abusive) family members, yet question yourself for this decision and/or feel guilty, ashamed, ‘bad’, or ‘wrong’ for distancing yourself from your family?
About My Services
My Scapegoat Recovery Life Coaching services are available online nationally and internationally (phone, secure video, or secure messaging). Licensed Psychotherapy services in the United States are available to California residents only (see below).
I am able to work with coaching clients worldwide.Online life coaching is not for everyone. An assessment is required prior to my agreeing to accept you in my practice. Typically, online counseling or coaching is not suitable for anyone who is feeling suicidal, is mentally unstable, or has substance abuse issues – all which require an in-person assessment / intervention from a licensed professional in your jurisdiction.
The International Society for Mental Health Online (ISMHO) was formed in 1997 to promote the understanding, use and development of online communication, information and technology for the international mental health community. ISMHO is a nonprofit organization.
Important Note: Coaching is not the same as counseling. My online licensed counseling services in the United States are available to California residents only – Please visit https://betteronlinecounseling.com for more information.
Rebecca C. Mandeville, LMFT, is an internationally recognized expert in recovering from the negative effects of being raised in a dysfunctional family system. She served as Core Faculty at the world-renowned ‘Institute of Transpersonal Psychology’, and is a pioneer in identifying (via clinical experience and research) the unique constellation of symptoms caused by what she eventually named Family Scapegoat Abuse (FSA).